Never Sleep with Snake.

I love this “story”. It was might be only fiction but the moral story is indeed very deep and true.

In our life, we always open to new opportunities and challenge. It’s mean we are open to meet more (new) people. Because new opportunities are indeed often come from people, both people around us or people that we just meet. The problem is can we identify those people as someone who can lead us into good new chance or they will only be our toxic people who only wanted to get some advantage from us. .

We often trapped on our own judgment as we judge people by cover. That is the fact. Just because they looks not really care to us, they talked in high tone or rude way, they dress up in style that not our cup of tea, don’t response well to the topic that you talked about, then we are easy to assume that they are not good or nice enough to you. But when you just met someone who showed that they care so much about you, invite you to dinner, gave you present, talks in very nice way, or maybe give you a lot of compliment words, you suddenly felt that you just met your new angel.

The analogy of the snake on that article is describing that some people can be very fond to us because they need something from us. When that “angel” became the issue in your life, you finally realize that you were became their friend in needed only.

I did not say that you should not trust anyone. But, never trust someone easily or just like that until you are sure what they expect from your relation. In other side please don’t judge people badly so easy either just because they don’t seem nice to you.

Often our weakness is when we felt somebody is really close or care about us, then we are trying to please them back~ often with over reacting response. We also became “blind” and never notice the negative things from them because we kept trying to convince our feeling that they are our good friends. Same like the story about the snake, the lady even did not realize that she was actually the target of the snake.

To be honest, I personally used to often became that “blind” and ended became the victim of some mean people who took advantage of my kindness or generosity. My system believe was, when people give me cup of chocolate, I should give them back a pot of chocolate and probably with coffee, cake, or cookies. When I got bad feeling about someone wants to hurt me, I often close my “eyes” and insisted that kindness is kindness, I don’t want to make my mind have negative thought. It made my self became an easy victim for some "snakes". But now I learned that kindness should not make us became “blind”. We don’t need to judge people, practice to observe and listen to your intuition. And we cant let us became a "target". Your intuition somehow can be ruined when we are not alert.

My father is always reminding me that to maintain relationship with a friend, I should use the technique like how to play kite. “When we are flying kite, we could not pull the string too strong or too loose. When we pull it too strong it able to break up. If it is too loose we could not fly the kite well. Just be close to someone in a proportionally way” said my father. With that way, we dont have to be worry there is a snake approaching us.

Never ever sleep with snake.